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Narcissistic Abuse & Codependency
What is narcissistic abuse & do I need trauma therapy?
Do you find there is never space for your feelings in your relationship? Is your discomfort and pain always a problem for your partner? Do you feel always on guard in your own home, even when there is nothing happening?
A narcissistic partner will never love you how you deserve to be loved. The goal is to diminish you and to keep you unsteady so that you remain ensnared in the relationship. If you know you deserve better but are struggling to choose better, let's work through it together.
The imbalance in how emotions are handled can create a power dynamic where your needs and feelings are consistently subordinated to the needs and desires of the narcissistic partner. Your emotional state may be used as a tool for manipulation, keeping you dependent on their approval or validation. Even when there’s no overt conflict, the emotional atmosphere in a relationship with a narcissist can be tense and unpredictable. This can make you feel as though you are always on edge. You might experience anxiety or stress as you constantly anticipate potential criticism or manipulation, leading to a state of heightened vigilance even in seemingly peaceful moments. Trauma therapy will assist you to recognize that you deserve to be loved with respect, compassion, and understanding. Your feelings and needs are valid and worthy of being addressed in a healthy relationship. Trauma therapy will help you to understand what a supportive and respectful relationship looks like. This involves recognizing qualities such as empathy, mutual respect, and effective communication.
What is codependency & do I need recovery?
Are you a rescuer? Do you prioritize the needs of others to the detriment of your well-being? Do you believe others have value and worth greater than your own?
Codependency is often rooted in conditional self-love: the belief that you must earn love through deeds and are undeserving of love organically. You may find yourself stuck in a cycle of achievements, continuously striving to be enough.
Codependency is a pattern of behavior in which you may find yourself prioritizing the needs and well-being of others to the detriment of your own. This often stems from deep-seated beliefs about self-worth and love. Trauma therapy can reveal ways codependency manifests, its roots in conditional self-love, and the cycle of striving for validation. Often, rescuing behavior is motivated by a desire for approval or validation from others. By meeting others’ needs, you may seek affirmation or a sense of worth. Focusing on others can be a way to avoid dealing with your own issues or unmet needs. It can serve as a distraction from personal struggles or dissatisfaction. Trauma therapy will reflect on the underlying motivations behind your rescuing behavior and the belief systems driving it. It is critical to understand why you feel compelled to earn love through deeds; therapy can help in addressing these issues. Trauma therapy will assist you to work on developing a sense of self-worth that is not contingent on external validation. You will begin to practice self-compassion and recognize your intrinsic value as a person, independent of your actions or achievements.
Why are healthy relationships important & how can trauma therapy help me?
Trauma therapy will work to shift your focus from seeking external validation to nurturing inner validation. Trauma therapy seeks to help you trust in your own worth and abilities without needing constant approval from others. Embarking on the journey to rewrite your internal dialogue and cultivate unconditional self-love can be challenging but transformative.
Trauma processing will challenge existing beliefs and behaviors. This may involve questioning old patterns of thinking and behaving that no longer serve you. Recovery may start by identifying negative or critical self-talk that undermines your self-esteem. Common examples include self-criticism, perfectionism, or internalized messages of inadequacy.
Trauma therapy will work to help you recognize and embrace your right to occupy space in the world. This involves accepting your needs, desires, and feelings as valid and important. If you are ready to be uncomfortable, then we will work together to re-write your internal dialogue. You will learn to show yourself grace and kindness. Unconditional self-love means accepting yourself fully, regardless of your achievements or failures. It’s about recognizing your intrinsic worth and value. When your self-love is unconditional, you begin to release unhealthy relationships unapologetically. Trauma exploration and the process of rewriting your internal dialogue, showing yourself grace, and giving yourself permission to take up space, involves confronting discomfort, transforming negative self-talk, and practicing unconditional self-love. By prioritizing your own well-being and setting healthy boundaries, you can release unhealthy relationships and cultivate a life that reflects your true worth. This journey requires courage and commitment but can lead to profound personal growth and a more fulfilling and balanced life.
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